I couldn’t tell you how old I was, who I was with, if it was pink or if it had a dinky bow in the middle. Did I buy it or did my mom? Was it soft or an underwire? Lace or Lycra? Yet here I am, at 28-years-old, wondering about my first… my first bra.
I read a first bra story on a forum that made me laugh – a dad told a mom that their daughter’s nipples were showing, and suggested three solutions. To cover her nipples with Band-Aids, wrap her chest in gauze or buy her a bra. Solution #2 = Father of the Year Award. I might have an extra pink, glitter trophy for him.
Do you remember the show, Lizzie McGuire? Disney Channel, Gordo, Hillary Duff… ring a bell? Gordo was such a hottie – I’ve always been into the nerdy types. Well, there was an episode, “Between a Rock and a Bra Place” that was all about first bras. The cool cat in school who hails by the name Jenni begins wearing a bra. Jealous, Lizzie says that a bra changed her, and that if she wore a bra, she would be “Lizzie Warrior Princess.” Yehh girl! Get it!
I asked two girls I work with if they remembered their first bra.
“I could not wait to get a ‘real’ bra! I think I was 11-years-old and I begged my mom to buy me one. Being the little sister, all I wanted was to be older and nothing said grown up to me like a bra! My mom finally gave in and we went to Kohl’s to get the same bra my best friend had. Of course, I was as flat as a board, but this particular bra had just enough shape to it that it fit me perfectly and also made me look like I just barely had boobs. It was simple white, and very soft and comfy. Actually, it is really similar to my favorite bras I still wear. I loved it and wore it practically every day.”
“Like most girls going through puberty, I was not cool with the changes my body was experiencing. It didn’t help that I was the definition of a tomboy. From my short bob cut to my typical outfit of Nike sneakers, athletic shorts and a t-shirt. I had no desire to do my hair, put on make up, or shave, but nothing could hold a candle to the idea of having to wear a bra. No way! I didn’t want to add another thing to my everyday outfit, but when the boys started calling me ‘Kiwi Katie’ I couldn’t help but think that maybe it was time. Thank goodness my mom was/is a saint and made the process as painless as possible. My first bra was a typical bralette made of t-shirt material and was as close to a sports bra as possible. If only I had the opportunity to buy a Madalynne bra, of course without the frills, it would’ve been an even better experience : )”
I won’t be so bold to say that lingerie can change a person, it certainly hasn’t with me, but it does give a woman an opportunity to experiment her “intimate” side regardless of her public persona. No one else, aside from your pets or your paramour, sees your lingerie. You can be whoever you want to be! When I tell people that I sew, and that I sew lingerie, most respond that they wouldn’t expect that from me. Not sure why, but that’s the reaction I usually get. I’m no secret sex kitten, I just like making lacy things that make me feel good, I can wear everyday, can be cut at my kitchen counter and sewn in an afternoon. Really, my relationship with lingerie is that easy and simple. P.S. I believe that good/healthy relationships should be that way too.
A girl’s first bra marks such a pivotal moment. In addition to a her first period, it means that things are changing, she is changing, and she will continue to change. That’s one thing about life that stays the same – it (life) and your boobs will always change. Ugh! Got lots to look forward to – saggy tatas.
Too young to wear a bra? Such a thing? Say a girl wasn’t showing, but asked for a bra at 6 or 7-years-old? If you were her mother, would you buy her a cami/sports bra and say it’s just a phase? Ahem, a Noelle would be a perfect option. Just saying. Or do you give her the most uncomfortable underwire bra and say, “Here hunny. Enjoy!” Surely, it wouldn’t be long before she stopped wearing a bra until it was necessary. Kids nowadays, they’re just growing up too fast, aren’t they? Thanks Kim K.
Today is just about a hodgepodge of some random, honest thoughts. I definitely want this to be an interactive conversation, so let me hear your first bra story. Did you want a bra? Were you an early bloomer who had to wear one before your friends? When do you think is the right time for a girl to begin wear a bra? Let it all hang out ladies!